learning to trust yourself
recently, i received a newsletter from an internet friend, jerine nicole (be sure to sign up for her newsletter, you won’t regret it). it brought to light an issue that i’ve been dealing with for years, but could never uncover what it was.
it was simple, but a tough pill to swallow…
i’m not fully trusting myself.
i know ‘not being able to trust yourself’ sounds stupid. but let me explain with a backstory:
i have a lot of interests. whether that be marketing, coding, writing, finance, entrepreneurship, photography, space, tech, spirituality, and the list goes on.
now, i firmly believe having multiple interests and being a generalist is better than being a specialist. but that’s for another post.
the problem with having a wide variety of interests is that i’m constantly picking things up and putting them down. never fully immersing myself and getting my hands dirty.
some will say i’m experiencing shiny object syndrome, which is true. but i used to think it’s because i get bored easily.
but in retrospect, it’s because i’m afraid of failure. this fear of failure holds me back from giving my all into something.
especially when things get challenging, that’s when i decide to jump to the next interest.
this not sticking to something and constantly changing started to cause this uncomfortable disappointment within myself.
the problem is that the only person i’m disappointing is myself.
essentially, it wrote this internal narrative that i can’t rely on myself, which leads to me not being able to trust myself.
“If I can’t be reliable to myself, how can others rely on me?” — a quote from Jerine’s newsletter
the solution
i’m sure there are others with shiny object syndrome or dealing with the same inconsistency that i have.
the solution is simple:
be consistent.
you have to show up for yourself, because if you can’t show up for yourself, than who will? i know this sounds corny, but it’s 100% real.
whether that be publishing a blog post every week, taking just one photo every day, or whatever habit that you want to build. just show up and get past that hurdle of initial resistance and challenges.
by building that consistency, you start to show yourself that you can put in the work even during the days that you don’t want to.
having that mentality builds confidence knowing that you’re striving towards your goals.
i haven’t figured this out, but i’m still working on being consistent myself. i know it may seem weird believing someone that hasn’t done it themselves.
but look at all the greats in any field. what is the one thing that they all have in common? they were consistent and put the work in every day.
